Single But Not Sad

It may feel like time is passing you by as you're anxiously awaiting  that special someone. Your peers may be getting engaged/married, while you feel like you're so far away from that point. Instead of spending your time feeling sorry for yourself for being alone, utilize that time to figure out who you are, what you want in life and what you're looking for in a partner.

It's easier and best to do self-reflection while you're still single. You can't know when your time will come but what you can do is be a productive single. A productive single is someone who focuses his/her energy on self-discovery and self-improvement. You can also work on your relationship with yourself. Once you learn to love yourself, you'll not only let your partners love you but you'll also expect them to do so.

It's easier to do some self-reflection when you're single for several reasons. First, it's easy to ignore the bad and focus on the good, when you're really into someone. This is problematic when you've put aside what's important to you in a relationship just to stay in one. Second, it's hard to leave a relationship, when you've invested a lot in your partner. By the time you realize that you're not right for each other, you might already be comfortable with the person. However, just because you feel good with your partner, it doesn't mean he's/she's right for you. Lastly, you may find yourself settling, to make things work with your partner. Yet, once you settle, you're no longer true to yourself-your desires, your goals and expectations of your partner. This doesn't mean that you should stay single. It means you should take the time to figure out who you are and what you want in a partner before getting involved with someone.

While you're single, focus on being the best you. Instead of focusing so much on finding someone, focus on your goals. This way, when the right person comes into your life, you'll be in a good place. If you have things to work out emotionally, do it while you're single. When you're in a healthy place in your life, you'll be ready for a healthy relationship.