Assuming The Non-Obvious

You had a disagreement with a guy you've been dating. You two stopped talking but deep down inside you wish he would make the first move, call you and resolve things with you. When he doesn't, you assume he's a jerk, who doesn't care about you. Thing is, you just don't know that that is the case.

Men are expected to be the strong ones in relationships with women. When they have a fight with the woman they're dating, they're expected to try and resolve things. Yet, men might withdraw from doing so, as they're afraid of rejection. Just because a guy doesn't act hurt, doesn't mean he's not. After all, society expects men not to display much emotion.

If you get upset with your partner and start ignoring him, he might stop talking to you. There could be many reasons for this. Maybe he doesn't think you're worth fighting for. Or, maybe he feels rejected by you because you were the one who stopped talking to him. Or, maybe there's another reason. While it may be easiest to assume the worst, such as, the guy is a jerk, who never liked you, it's best to find out the reason.

Communication is so important in a relationship and here's one reason why. In a situation like the one mentioned above, communication can give you answers. Instead of assuming a guy doesn't care about you because he didn't chase you after your fight, talk to him. See how he's feeling, what he's thinking and make sure you let him know your feelings and thoughts too.

A good conversation with your partner can work wonders. It can destroy all your negative assumptions about what he's like as a person and what he thinks about you. Your partner might really like you but worry that you'll reject him. So when you stop answering him, your partner might assume that you've moved on and walk away.

It's important to mention that not only is it up to women to stop making assumptions about their partners, men must too. Men shouldn't assume that just because their partner stopped talking to them, they're no longer interested. In fact, a lot of women ignore their partners, when they're upset with them but hope that their partners will take initiative and ask what's wrong. Key word: ask.