It's normal to make mistakes. Yet, it takes maturity to learn from them. Extracting the lessons will give you insight into your self. Instead of living in regret, apply this knowledge to improve your life. Choose to reflect, not to regret, for a happier and healthier love life.
Think of your greatest relationship regret. This can be something that you consistently find yourself doing or something that you did once. Either way, stop blaming yourself for your past errors. The constant reminder of past mistakes, might lead to feelings of guilt. Guilt is what leaves you frozen in the past and impedes you from moving forward. Accept your mistakes and take it upon yourself to learn from them. Try to understand your choices and behaviors. Once you understand them, you're better equipped to change them.
Changing your behaviors might take time and a lot of repetitive mistakes. What matters is that you extract the lesson from these mistakes. What did you learn about yourself? How did this experience make you feel? Mistakes give you a clearer picture of what you want and don't want in a relationship. It teaches you your strengths and weaknesses. Most importantly, it teaches you self-acceptance. That is, to love yourself because of your mistakes. You'll do better, after you mess up.
Your behaviors don't define you as a partner/person but they do make or break you. Sometimes, you might get carried away from your values and do things you aren't proud of. However, to regret is to stay stuck in the past. To reflect is to look at your past to make a better future for yourself. What you did doesn't matter as much as what it taught you and what you intend to change. You're never too old to make mistakes or to better yourself. While reflection will guide you on your path to becoming your best self, regret will hold you back.
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