What To Do When He/She Doesn't Text/Call Back Or Does So Late

That feeling when he/she doesn't text/call you back or does so late...The frustration, anger, sadness, etc. And I'm not talking about a person who does this occasionally but someone who does it consistently. Here are some things to consider in this situation.

Ask him/her if he's/she's busy. It's best to give him/her the benefit of the doubt, before immediately jumping to conclusions. There may be a good reason why he/she isn't answering you. There may be a simple solution too. For example, if your schedules are different, you would have to find a time where you can both talk. If the person is interested in you they will be willing to do this, even if it means going out of his/her way. Yet, it's important to recognize the difference between a person who is actually busy, with work for example, versus someone who chooses to occupy his time with people other than you and activities that don't involve you. Of course, it's very important for an individual to have his/her own friends and activities but once in a couple it's also important to shift things around to make time for the other person.

Focus on the content of the texts/phone calls. First, you want to look for indications that the person is actually interested in you. Doing this based on the content of texts can be difficult, less so with the content of phone conversations. Texts are very susceptible for misunderstandings because of the lack of tone, eye contact, gestures, etc. Nevertheless, there are still things to look out for. Focus on what he/she is saying. For instance, "hey babe, so sorry for not answering sooner. I was really busy. How is your day going?" sounds much better than "too busy to talk". There are several differences. The first reply is open-ended, shows regret for not having replied sooner and displays interest in your day. The second reply does none of these.

Focus on the person's actions. People have many different ways of showing interest. See how often, if at all, he/she asks you out/is willing to go out with you. After all, a big indicator that a person is interested in you is wanting to be with you regularly. If he/she takes things from texting/phone calls to in-person dates on a regular basis, he's/she's showing you interest through action. Also look out for body language. For example, does he/she come close to you when you speak? Another thing that can be a good indicator of a person's interest in you is whether or not they do/give you nice things. Does he/she show an eagerness to help you when in need? Does he/she give you soup, when you're sick?

While it's worth giving people who tend to not call/text you back, or tend to do so in an untimely manner a chance, it's also not worth investing your time, emotions and energy into someone who will not give you what you need. So clarify things for yourself by following my above suggestions.