We all want to feel appreciated by our man and we deserve it. It gives us a sense of security and comfort. If he doesn't appreciate you, he probably has the wrong intentions. Following are some signs that your man appreciates you.
If he cares, he'll let you know. What he gives is all that you'll get. I often fall in the trap of giving men too many chances, hoping they'll change their behaviors. Thing is they don't. Maybe one day they'll change their behaviors for a woman they love. But the change has to come from the men themselves. After a couple of chances, if your man doesn't change his ways, it's probably time to move on. The last thing you should be doing is asking him to be more appreciative of you.
If he cares, he'll be naturally inclined to compliment you, respect you and try to make you smile. You shouldn't feel the need to ask him to do so. And you definitely shouldn't be the only one making an effort. Reciprocity is very important in relationships. A lack of it can lead to resentment, loneliness and insecurity.
If he cares, he'll be scared to lose you. So when you fight rather than ignore you, he'll try to work through the problem with you. If he's in the wrong, he'll apologize and do what it takes to get your trust back. He'll invest time and energy in your relationship because he values it. If he's not afraid to lose you, he'll find someone else, instead of working through your problems.
If he cares, he'll encourage you to be you. It's very important that you're given a safe space to express yourself. You shouldn't worry that whatever you do/say will scare him away. If he tells you that you shouldn't be emotional, he's not interested in you as a person. In that case, he might just want you for sex or other purposes.
If he cares, he'll treat you like a rarity not a commodity. He'll do nice things to please you and not to satisfy his own selfish needs. That is, he won't spend time with you/take you out and expect sex, for example, in return. Instead of pressuring you with his expectations, he'll give you reasons to trust him.
Although the points made above may seem obvious, it's very easy to neglect applying them to our own lives. It's difficult to let go of someone we appreciate, even if they don't appreciate us. Yet, if both people can't appreciate each other, they aren't a good match. Thus, if he doesn't appreciate you, let go of him and find someone who does.
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