When you break your arm by slipping on the ice, you put a cast on it and let it heal. You become more careful on the ice but you don't avoid it altogether, as you need to get to places. However, there is no cast for a broken heart. And finding the courage to get back to dating after having your heart broken is way harder than finding the courage to go back onto the ice after having slipped and broken your arm.
Healing love wounds takes time. The way one heals depends on the person. While humans have a strong desire to be with someone, it's not easy to put ourselves out there, especially after negative dating experiences. That is, when we always seem to be attracting players, it's easy to generalize that all men are players and give up on finding a nice guy who's not a player.
In order to avoid/get out of this stage of exasperation, we must take care of our emotional health and channel our exasperation into positive change. Taking care of our emotional health requires facing the pain brought upon us by our emotions and reflect on it. If you move on from a relationship, without taking the time to reflect, you will likely make the same mistakes again. For example, if you find yourself constantly ending up with women who only want to be with you for your money, reflecting on your past relationships will help you spot gold-diggers more easily. While reflection isn't a full-proof method for avoiding getting your heart broken, it decreases the likelihood of recurrence.
It's important to get back on one's feet, after a broken heart. But in order to properly do so one must heal one's love wounds by releasing our negative emotions. Simply moving on doesn't allow us to recharge and get into a new relationship with a positive attitude. Instead, it makes us bring our trust issues with us. In order to trust again while also reducing the risk of another broken heart, we must reflect, release and recharge.
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