My number one wish for myself is to be happy and find serenity in my life. Unfortunately, I repeatedly find myself in the same sticky situations, which prevent me from fulfilling this wish. And these situations all have one thing in common...they all involve men!
Why does our happiness depend so much (if not almost entirely) on being in love or with someone? And why do we cry endlessly when a guy we like breaks our heart, leads us on, or hurts us? Why does inspiration to write this blog post have to come from yet another negative experience with a guy? It's so easy to tell ourselves that we give up on love, that we won't give our hearts (and maybe body) away so easily... But how many times do we fall into this same trap again and again and again? And we can't be blamed really. It's so hard to "restrain" our hearts from falling for the next guy.
Sure, many of us find meaning and happiness in other people and things in our lives. But it's easy to forget all these other people and things while in pain over a guy. It's sad how we are designed to reminisce over what we lost and forget what we didn't. Yet, as much as we try, it's practically impossible to rationalize our emotions. And making sense of our emotions and channelling them in healthy ways can take years to learn. It's not as simple as telling ourselves "we are not right for each other so let me move on". It's more like "whyyyyyyyy".
The best we can do is accept the fact that we can't control everything in life. Shit happens. And sometimes we are defenseless. But this vulnerability is what makes us human. In accepting our helplessness, we are in a good place to learn from these negative experiences and all the closer to finding someone who is good to us. We can't control what happens to us but we can control how we deal with it and how much we let it affect us. No matter how deep the stab, the heart heals. The heart has a boundless supply of love. Whether we choose to make use of it is up to us...
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