Her looks/body
Three men said that the first thing that attracts them to a woman is her looks/body. The body parts of a woman most attractive to men can be divided into two major categories: their breasts and their bum. One of the men I interviewed clarified why he (and perhaps many other men) focus on these particular body parts. He said that for him, looking at a woman's breasts and bum, causes him to fantasize about making love to her. Yet, another man explained to me that while the first thing that attracts him to a woman is her physical beauty, the spark that this can initially create cannot be maintained by this alone. In the long run, the most attractive qualities to him are knowledge/intelligence, wit and creativity. Similarly, another man said that the quickest way for him to be attracted to a woman is her looks but interestingly enough he did not find the people he had the strongest feelings for very attractive. As long as a guy doesn't make obnoxious comments about your breasts or bum, I say embrace these body parts that make you sensual and feminine. If you are trying to attract some cute guy, don't be shy to wear some nice jeans that emphasize your bum, for example. Of course, this should not be the only thing that you emphasize if you want a serious relationship. Also, you don't have to make an effort to attract any attention to your body, if you are uncomfortable doing so, even if many men are visual. Just know that if you do make an effort, it should be because of a choice YOU made and embrace.
Her face
Two men told me that it's important to them that the woman they are with has a pretty face. While a woman's body can go through drastic changes, through diet and exercise for example, a woman's face remains more or less the same over the years (considering no dramatic plastic surgery was done). And this is why one man told me that the number one thing he finds attractive in a woman is her face. The other man agreed that a woman can be super fit but without an attractive face he won't be attracted to her. In fact, he rather go out with a chubby girl with an attractive face than a fit girl with an unattractive face. It's important to him that he likes the woman's face because that's what he's going to be waking up to. He couldn't do so with a girl who's face he doesn't like. This makes sense, as a person's face is normally the first thing someone notices and so it plays an important role in attraction.
Her personality
Six men brought up a woman's personality in relation to attraction. One man said "For me it's 80% not physical." To him, humbleness is attractive. Her body language, behavior and the way she smiles/laughs matters too. Another man I interviewed explained to me why a woman's laugh is the most attractive trait to him. He said that people's laughs give him insight into their personality. For example, a softer, higher pitched laugh indicates shyness to him. This man said that he prefers laughs that indicate a confident and outgoing personality. Someone else I interviewed also said that confidence/self-assurance is the most attractive trait in a woman and it comes across through her personality and the way she carries herself. An open-minded woman, who doesn't play games, loves to talk about a range of topics and who's not afraid to speak her mind was also described as attractive. Finally, I was also told that the most appealing thing in a woman is a nurturing character, as it's at the core of femininity and a nice contrast to a typical man's ruggedness. Despite the different preferences in personality, in order to bond with a partner, a man will have to be able to get along with her/him. Thus, it's important that a man put some focus on the other person's personality and not just the way she/he looks.
So ladies, personality overwhelmingly wins! Plus, the men who said that looks is the first thing they notice, don't necessarily ignore the importance of personality.
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Thanks to the following men for their participation in this article (their initials): BH, BI, DL, JB, JH, ML, MS, MZ, QH, YB
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